Stop asking “Do they like me?!” and start asking “Do I like them?”
One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood. -Seneca
This will help you focus on the other person more during an interaction.
You’ll be more present with them.
You’ll focus less on trying too hard to impress them.
You’ll be more selective, looking for the right fit rather than “anyone”
You’ll overthink less about what you’re doing or not doing in the interaction. (Less self-monitoring is a good thing)
You won’t click with everyone, and you shouldn’t expect to!
But if you actively look for things that you like about the other person, then you’ve set yourself up for success, because you’re focusing on the interaction and the other person. instead of yourself.
(And you might even click with more people!)